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5 Practical Ways To Teach Children About Love
5 Practical Ways To Teach Children About Love

Love and kindness are never wasted, they always make the difference 

– Helen James

It’s Valentine’s day and love is in the air. 

This is one of the best opportunities to teach children about love.

Love is not something that you just talk about, love is just something that you do. It’s not enough to tell children what love is, help them show love in practical ways.

Here are 5 practical ways to teach your students about love:

1. Love cards

Give your students cards on which they can then write their positive messages. They can then choose to trade cards with their friends or place them secretly in books for their friends to find. They can also take cards home to give to their parents or siblings to express how much they love them.

2. Love jars

Get a jar for each student in your class an write their names. Each time a child performs an act of love or kindness, write the act on a piece of paper and put it in his or her jar. Celebrate each child when they fill their jar. You can give a gift, a star or just celebrating them in front of the class.

3. Love in action

This is an interesting activity where you call out your students in pairs and then ask each child to express love to the other child without saying a word. Trust me this one especially is fun. For instance, hugging other children, helping others with their homework, helping their friends when they fall, etc.

4. Love notes

Have each child write something nice about everyone in the class on a small piece of paper. Then they hand over the love notes to back to their classmates. This means in a class of 15 children each child will get 14 love notes. This will surely bring smiles on their faces as they read the nice things written about them by their classmates.

5. Love in the community

Ask each child to bring something from home to give to the less privileged in the community. This could range from foodstuffs, old clothing, toiletries, old toys to something valuable to them. Organize an outing to an orphanage home or a less privileged school in the community where they can give out these items. Bringing smiles and joy to other people is one of the ways we show love.

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Are you using the wrong love language for your students?
Are you using the wrong love language for your students?

My daughter’s love language is words of affection, lots of hugs and cuddles.

However, her brother doesn’t want any of that. What he wants is time. He wants you to spend quality time with him.

Knowing a child’s love language can make a huge difference. It can help strengthen teacher-child bonds, motivate children and reduce unwelcome behaviors.

Everyone experiences love in five main ways – through physical touch, gifts, words of affection, acts of service and quality time. But for everyone, there is usually one or two ways that are most important to them. 

Your love language is the one that when used, makes you feel most loved.

So, imagine giving gifts to a child whose love language is words of affection and physical touch.

Here are the 5 love languages and how to use them in the classroom:

1. Words of Affection

If a child always beams with smiles or gets excited when you praise her, then her love language is words of affection. Compliment her regularly such as saying, “Good job, keep it up”, “You look nice today”, “Your handwriting is nice”, “I was proud of your work today”.

2.    Quality Time:

A child who always calls for your attention in class and comes to see you regularly has the love language of quality time.. Treat them as individuals, look for opportunities to call them aside and talk to them.

3.    Physical-Contact:

Several children like physical contacts, such as a high five, a hug or a pat on the shoulder. There are several types of physical contact that teachers should not do depending on the culture, student gender, and age. It is important to ensure all physical contact with children is appropriate.

4. Acts of Service

 As teachers, we do things for our children that they can’t do for themselves and it is important that increasingly we teach them how to do things for themselves. The acts of service love language is when a child appreciates you doing things for them. For example, helping them find a lost item, helping them learn something new, helping them do their homework, etc. However, children must learn self-reliance so don’t jump at every request to do something for them.

5.    Receiving Gifts:

For some children, their love language is receiving things. These children see gifts as a symbol of love. However, as teachers, we need to resist the temptation to shower children with gifts and presents. The gifts given must be more thoughtful than expensive. For instance, giving a card, a lollipop, a story book.

Each teacher needs to identify the love language of the children in their class by paying attention to how the child expresses love to others, what the child complains about frequently or what love language they frequently choose when given an option.

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6 Things You Must Tell Your Children About Love before The World Does
6 Things You Must Tell Your Children About Love before The World Does

My niece’s BFF got married not too long ago and it was such an exciting event with my niece as the Chief Bridesmaid. This was her best friend from age 6, so we knew her for like forever. Today, she is separated from her husband, she is just 26yrs old. My other sister’s friend’s son and his wife separated just after the honeymoon last year. You have to ask yourself, what is going on? What happened? How did it go downhill so fast?

I strongly believe that the root of the issue is what our children have been taught by the world about love.

So here are some things I think we need to quickly debunk about love while our kids are still young:

1. The person you love must be handsome, have 6 packs, rich, intelligent, romantic, popular (and the list continues)

When I watch cartoons with my children, the popular kid that everyone likes is “perfect” and the nerd needs to change appearance to be liked and loved. The “celebrities” are beautiful, slim and COOL. My 8yrs old wants to have 6 packs and doesn’t want to be fat because he wants to be cool and loved by his friends. How do we get our children to look inward and get past physical appearance? We need to start to lay more emphasis and importance on character than physical things – looks, wealth, success, etc.

2. Love only those who love you or give you what you want

The best teacher for the child remains the parent and children don’t learn by what you say but what you do. So be the best model of love and most likely your child too will model this. Visit elderly people/relatives, volunteer and give to charity, you need to teach your child about helping other people that can give you nothing in return. It is also important they know that when someone gives you everything you want it doesn’t necessarily mean they love you. God disciples those He loves – so saying No and disciplining you are part of showing love.

3. Love only when the going is good

For better and for richer only. You love someone who is beautiful, rich, successful and has a great job. One day, all that changes, the beautiful lady is involved in an accident that disfigures her. Or she grows fat from having children and we no longer love her because she is not the person we married physically. Life is full of ups and downs and no one can predict how it will go. Just like parents who are with a child through thick and thin and no matter what, that is how love should be. If a child is on drugs or decides to be gay, most parents become disappointed but their love for that child doesn’t go away.

4. Love never says any or doesn’t argue

A relationship based on one person being “superior” is a dangerous one. While we all have different strengths and we should complement one another and know that everyone has something to contribute. And love recognizes this. So Love doesn’t mean not having a say, not arguing or having a conflict of opinion. Love doesn’t force itself on others (1Cor 13:4-8 MSG) – which means it is ok for the person to say No and disagree.

5. Love is when your heart is racing and you have “chemistry”

Love should be seen not as a feeling. Love is a choice, a feeling that expresses itself in action. Sometimes there are gush feelings when the person does something nice and sometimes there is nothing. When love is seen as a feeling, then the truth becomes hidden – someone who loves you shouldn’t beat you black and blue. Truth be told, you love by your actions not in words alone. I like a quote by C.S Lewis “Do not waste time bothering whether you “love” your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this, we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him”.

6. Love is Prince Charming or Someone Who is Your Hero

Growing up you either wanted to find or be someone’s Prince Charming., Hero, Knight in shining armor. So everyone girl wanted someone who takes over and rescue you. And there is nothing bad in that. However, we all have a purpose, the greatest love strives to make you not DEPENDENT but independent to grow and blossom to be the BEST YOU. This might mean cutting off the parent support strings, letting go control to let you go out on your own, discover your strength. Love means going from a support/scaffold for a while to a Coach to a fan that cheers from the sidelines.   

Love can be messy and complicated and painful.  Real love cares more for others than for self, isn’t always “me first, doesn’t force itself on others  and always looks for the best in people (1 Cor 13:4-8 MSG).

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5 Tips to Raising Kids That Will Become Good Future Spouse
5 Tips to Raising Kids That Will Become Good Future Spouse

I once heard a little boy on a live video say he would like to learn how to cook so he could help his mum in the kitchen.  Like wow!! This boy is obviously going to make a great husband.  

Have you really thought about your child becoming someone’s future spouse?  

Whatever kind of husband or wife they morph into will be dependent on your own relationship with your spouse and how you are raising them today.  

It’s never too early to start instilling in your child those values that cement strong relationship as well as skills that will help them be a better husband or wife someday.

Here are some intentional parenting tips to help you raise your child to be a great future spouse

  • Instil the fear of God in them; I decided to make this first because the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.  A Godly character will take them far and build their spiritual maturity to become great partners.
  •  Teach them to express emotions; Emotional intelligence is key and can be built from childhood. Either you are a mother of boys or girls, emotional expression is important for building healthy relationships. Teach them to always express how they feel about issues at home, carry them along, let them have a say and express their feelings about things. This will help them build healthy relationship with their future spouse.
  • Teach them empathy; Empathy is sharing someone’s emotion or feeling. lack of it can mar your child’s future relationship with his or her partner. Teach them to join in the struggle, show affection rather than sitting back and watch from distance. If you help to imbibe this from young age, it will help them a great deal in the future.
  • Teach humility; If you sense your child exudes a know it all kind of character especially in their relationship with others or siblings, it will be better to nip such in the bud. Pride is what makes someone act like they can never be wrong, and it can cause conflict and emotional walls in your child’s future marriage.
  • Be a good example; Your efforts to raising a good future partner might not yield much if you don’t show examples in your relationship with your spouse daily. Children are great imitator and they unconsciously absorb everything you do. If you want your child to become a great future spouse, show it every day to your spouse.

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10 Free Websites for Teaching Resources Every Teacher Should Have
10 Free Websites for Teaching Resources Every Teacher Should Have

A lot of teachers are overworked and need help. One way to make life easier as a teacher is to have valuable teaching resources such as activity sheets and worksheets.

Ever heard of Jumpstart, or Easy teacher worksheets?

These help to improve your students’ learning and saves you time spent on preparing tests and worksheets.

There are a number of websites that provide these resources for FREE. In order to make life easier for you this term, we have taken the time to compile a list of some of our favorites.

Here are our top picks:

  1. JumpStart

JumpStart offers Mathematics and English worksheets for preschool through grade 5, along with quality educational games.

2. offers free printable student worksheets for subjects ranging from the English Language to Science for preschoolers to grade 12 students. In addition, you can create customized tests and worksheets from a huge item bank covering an extensive range of categories.

3. provides free access to mathematics, English, social studies and science worksheets for students in Kindergarten through grade 12.

4. Have Fun Teaching

Have Fun Teaching specializes in elementary language arts, math, and social studies worksheets for pre-school to grade 6 students.


At you can get free printable worksheets on numeracy, literacy, science for students in kindergarten through grade 5.

6. Every Day Edits

Every-Day Edits provide resources that helps to build language skills, test scores, and cultural literacy of students in grade 4 and above.

7. School Express Worksheets

School Express provides a collection of creative worksheets on phonics, creative writing, numeracy, history amongst others for pre-school to grade 6 students.

8. Easy Teacher Worksheets

This is a website that provides worksheets of subjects such as mathematics, English, social studies, science for students in pre-school up to grade 12.


This website has a section for free printable worksheets in all subjects for students in kindergarten to high school.


At you have access to various FREE worksheets such as maths, science, arts, health, business worksheets amongst others.  The website provides worksheets for Kindergarten through grade 12 students.

Apart from free worksheets, there are other free resources that can be of help to teachers.

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7 Ways to Get Parents More Involved
7 Ways to Get Parents More Involved

At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents – Jane D, Hull.

Parental involvement plays an important role in a child’s academic performance. It is important for teachers to get parents more involved in children’s education. This helps to improve their behavior as well as their overall performance in school.

Parental involvement is when parents spend time reading with their children, helping with their assignment and providing other necessary assistance towards improving their children’s education.

Encouraging parental involvement is one of the best ways to create a positive learning environment in the classroom which will help make your work as a teacher easier.

Here are some great ideas to get parents more involved:

1. Organize regular parent-teacher association meetings

Encourage parents to attend parent-teacher meetings. This will promote open communication and understanding between parents and teachers. You can ask questions on the children’s growth in the classroom, be aware of school programs, field trips, and events the school organizes as well as connect with other parents through the PTA WhatsApp group or any other social media platform.

2. Provide regular feedback

Send regular feedback to parents based on their children’s performance. This gives parents insight into areas where their children are lacking and need help. This will make parents more engaged in their children’s education and provide necessary assistance to their children.

3. Get them involved in organizing school activities

Transform parents from spectators to active participants in the school and in their child’s education by getting them involved in organizing events and activities in the school. Some such events include art exposition, traditional day, fundraising amongst others.

4. Invite parents to teach

This is a fun-packed method of engaging parents. Parents who are professionals can be invited to enlighten the students on their field of expertise. For instance, a parent who is a dentist can be invited to talk to the children about oral care and lots more.

5. Improve communication with parents

It is important to ensure a 2-way flow of communication. You can send out information through newsletters, press releases and ensure you get feedback from parents regarding their child’s education.

6. Personalize Communication

Ask parents how they would like to be involved and connected to the school. This is very important as not all parents can come to school at designated times. You can provide parents with various options for them to choose the most convenient one through which they wish to receive information about the school activities.

7. Encourage a flipped classroom

Encourage active parents’ participation by introducing a flipped classroom system. This teaching model flips the traditional learning environment where what is usually thought of as homework becomes classwork and vice-versa. Parents can provide their kids with instructional content (including recorded lessons) at home before class, while in-class time is devoted to ‘homework,’ such as projects, discussions and group work.

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5 Ways To Turn Parents Into Advocates
5 Ways To Turn Parents Into Advocates

Did you know you potentially have a sales force for your school that’s nearly the size of your student body?

They may not be trained sales professionals. Most of them don’t even work for your school. But they have a territory that extends all around the area you serve, and they have the potential to reach hundreds, if not thousands, of families with your school’s message.

Parents aren’t just sitting on the side-lines anymore. They’re actively involved in their children’s school success, and it’s paying off in surprising ways. Schools across the nation are discovering a powerful force for school improvement – parents.

Word of mouth is the number one way that prospective parents discover your school. It is the power of a referral that will drive your enrollment success more than any advertising campaign you can develop. The key to word of mouth marketing is to harness the power of your parents—your brand advocates.

Here are some tips on making parents your brand advocates:

1. Identify your advocates: parents are trusted champions for your brand (school) and influence the purchasing behaviors of other parents. You need to identify and utilize your most vocal and active parents among all your students’ parent, they will serve as your more positive word of mouth your school will have in the community.

2. Build a community: Create and build an avenue for your advocates to do your marketing for you, which is significantly more effective, credible, sustainable, less expensive. This is the exponential power of word of mouth marketing. Focusing on your parents should be your number one marketing strategy. Avenue such as WhatsApp groups, and other social media groups.

3. Empower your advocates: Your parents will be your brand advocates when they believe in their experience and want to share it with a friend by helping them in their school choice. When you take pictures and videos of children’s activities in the classroom, doing science practicals, STEM activities and a lot more, share in with parents they will be eager to share with their friends and family.

4. Connect with advocates: When parents advocate for your brand, there’s a higher likelihood you’ll find more customers and even more excited brand advocates in a short amount of time. Keep in touch with both new parents and previous ones every time.

5. Maintain existing relationships: Relationships are the backbone of advocacy. You have to continually support your advocate relationships to keep the spark alive. Everybody wants to feel special, give your advocates the insider access they crave, provide outstanding content, acknowledge milestones, use loyalty programs and lots more. It takes a great school with outstanding service, positive revenue, integrity, trust and an effective mission of making a difference in the lives of students to create a great brand advocate.

Word of mouth marketing works because of personal connections and is generally the largest source of new students at your school. The best marketing for a school is having happy parents actively telling their friends, families, and colleagues about your wonderful learning environment.

What are you doing to develop and motivate your brand advocates?

Are you spending more time focused on traditional advertising strategies or on word of mouth marketing?

Are you harnessing the power of your brand advocates to market your school?

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What Do Parents Really Want from their Child’s School?
What Do Parents Really Want from their Child’s School?

The first step in exceeding your customer expectation is to know those expectations.

– Roy H Williams

The secret to making any parent happy is to always exceed their expectations. But what are their expectations? How can you exceed it if you don’t know what it is?

As a school owner, do you know what your parents want?

Parents’ expectations vary from school to school and are usually not static. It’s important to know what it is.

Here is our take on some typical expectations of parents:

1. Rigorous Learning: Most parents want a rigorous curriculum. They want to know that their children are learning all that is required to succeed in life. 21st Century skills are changing which is why parents are increasing demanding for inclusion of CODING, STEM, use of technology etc in the curriculum.

2. Quality teachers: Parents are particularly concerned about the quality of a school’s teachers. They know that the teacher is one of the most important factors in a child’s education. And you cannot give (teach) what you don’t have.

3. Safe and positive environment: School environment that is safe from accidents, injuries, bullying, drug usage, harassment, friendly and foster positive children is what every parent wants from their school.

4. Good and quality facilities: Classroom facilities, playground facilities, laboratory facilities, libraries, and other digital learning facilities make it easy for children to learn effectively are major parts to look out for parents.

4. Extracurricular activities: These activities play a major role in building a strong team spirit among children, bring out talents and capabilities in every child. Activities such as sports, swimming, dance, chess, and lots more. Having these extracurricular activities are really important and essential in building good skills in children.

5. School’s reputation: This is highly important for parents and there are several reasons for this. If the school has operated for years and ran programs that have proven to be successful over the years it is a great thing for the parents. They would know that their kids are in great hands.

6. Strong home/school communication: Every parent wants to know what is happening in their education and school environment. They don’t want to be unaware, a lot of communication, the flow of information. Communication should be a 2-way form and ensure to get feedbacks.

7. Individual attention given to students: Parents want to feel confident that teachers will notice treat their children as an individual. They want to know that the teacher give each child attention and will notice and take action should any problem arise. They don’t want their children to be a number but to be treated as individual based on the individual strengths, personalities, and challenges

8. Use of technology: Technology is everywhere today and the 21st Century child needs to be comfortable and familiar with using technology. Increasing parents expect the school to have technology, use it and teach children how to use various technology devices and software.

Technology is not about the device or tool but what it is used to enable and support. In the classroom, technology can be used to support learning using tablets and computers. One of the best ways to use technology in your school is to ensure it has the right educational content.

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Doing the “Birds and Bees” Talk in the Digital Age
Doing the “Birds and Bees” Talk in the Digital Age

One of the shortcomings of the digital age is the proliferation of all forms of information readily available to all internet surfers today.  As such, living in the digital age means you must face reality. Kids are exposed to far more sexually explicit images than you can imagine. Let’s just cut it short there, you know better.

First, when should you talk about the birds and bees talk?

I have attended events where parents shared their concerns about confusions surrounding when to do the big talk. While you may want to wait until your child starts asking questions around this, you might be wrong if you choose to ignore it because such questions about sex aren’t forth coming from him or her.  When your child is about age 5, you can start introducing books and or games that deal with the subject matter in an age appropriate level. Parents often have trouble in this area but 9ijakids have developed a fun learning game for kids on this subject that can help you take off the conversation.

Here are five things you need to know about doing the sex talk with your child .

Start earlier. Don’t even say your kids are too young for this. If your child knows his or her way around the internet, then chances are that before 12/13, they know a lot more than you can imagine. Delaying talking about it later may be too late. I suggest 9-11 years old so you can establish appropriate information and standard around sexuality.

It should happen in stages and be continuous; You don’t have to reveal everything all at once, it should be in stages and age appropriate. For instance, start with body parts, bad touch, what is private part and why it’s called so. Also, Sex education is not a one-off discussion. As they get older, talk about puberty, changes humans undergo, sexuality and responsibility.

Utilise every opportunity you have: Always find a good conversation starter as against formal sitting which could be a tad uncomfortable for you and even your child. A good conversation starter could be a scene on the TV, something on the internet that you both saw, couples showing affection publicly etc.

Spy on their internet history: Take time to study their activities online, see what they are up to by checking through their browser history. If you notice your child clears browser history, you might need to take a closer look at him/her.

Get involved by studying up: There are a lot of slangs out there on the internet and chances are that they are also popular among kids.  Get yourself informed and watch out for it.

Don’t miss the opportunity to beat peer pressure and prepare your child for the future. Your kids are exposed to a lot of information on the web, from other kids and even neighbourhood. The important thing is to not be afraid to start the conversation and to keep it going. This is part of healthy living. Download 9ijakids application on google play store for your kids to play fun learning games on basic sex education and other educational games. click here to get it. Share this article with your network by clicking the button below.

What if Your Child Asks Where Do Babies Come From?
What if Your Child Asks Where Do Babies Come From?

“Mommy, where do babies come from?”

This is the question that made my heart skipped a bit when i was carrying my second child’s pregnancy. My son beside me in the bedroom suddenly put the question to me. I do not doubt the fact that the question may have been spurred by my baby bump. Naturally kids are curious, and every parent will at one point in time be faced with this kind of question or a similar one.

So why is this question such a big deal for many parents? 

Well the fact that you don’t have a ready answer and you are not even sure how to explain such a complicated process to a little child is enough to make you feel a tad uncomfortable. In most cases, your first instinct may be to turn to fairy tales lol, but experts say don’t worry. If your toddler pushes such a question to you, “You absolutely don’t need to go there,” says Debra Laino, a sexuality educator. This is so because Toddlers do not have the abstract thinking ability to comprehend all that revolves around sex.


According to Miriam K.Horn , a  psychologist in New jersey, United states of America advises parents to answer children’s questions in simple terms and then wait for the next question. For your toddler, you don’t have to assume that they really want to know, they are just curious and not necessarily asking you to talk about sex. As you answer the first, “They will guide you to how much detail to give them.”

What to say at each age?

Ages 3-4

Response to kids around this age can be as simple as telling a story about seeds and germination. You do not need to go deeper by talking about sex and all that relates to it. Your child will quickly relate to it if he or she has seen seeds grow into plant.

Ages 5-7

If this question is coming around this age, you can explain sexual intercourse albeit mildly especially if the child asks for more information. You could start by saying its part of adult life when they are married.  Find a visual book at the library or a bookstore that show how a baby grows in the womb

From 8 and Above

At this point, give more information. This is necessary because you want to be your child’s source for accurate information especially as it concerns the subject matter. They’ll go somewhere else for the facts of life if they don’t get them from you.

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