Most children feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about sex. They would prefer to turn to their friends or media for information. However, information received from these sources can be wrong and they could be misinformed. As a parent, you are the most important educator on the subject because it’s an avenue to discuss it in light of your values. If you also think talking about sex with your kids can be intimidating, you are not alone. Parents worry that talking about sex will encourage their child to be curious and want to give a try, however, it’s better to think of the consequences (teenage pregnancy. STD, etc) of not talking to them about it. Also, studies show that teenagers who talk to their parents about sex are more likely to postpone sexual activities and use protection
The more I attend parenting and education seminars and conferences, the more amazed I am about the realities and challenges around parenting the 21st Century child. One of such issues is addiction and substance abuse (be it alcohol or drugs). Pre-teen children aged 10, 11 and 12 are sniffing fuel, bleach, methylated spirit and gum to get “high”. Yes, to get high. The recent codeine addiction issue in Nigeria was also an eye opener. These things are really happening here in Nigeria, it is no longer what we hear happening in faraway England or America and as parents we don’t have to sleep on it. Addiction is real and it’s important we start early to educate our children about it. Never say “my family is immune” or “God forbid”. What are you “intentionally” doing to prevent it?
Do you belong to the class of parents that say the kids are too young to be taught this subject matter? then you probably might be heading for a shocker. The internet makes pornography readily available to anyone at any age in any location and it makes it difficult to raise a child today. As a matter of fact, it is most likely that kids are getting a lot of their sex education through viewing porn and you will be shocked how much they know already. Scary right? that’s it. If you ever experienced how things suddenly pop up on your phone’s screen while reading through a blog post or news headlines and with just a click, it redirects you to a link with sexually explicit contents, you would understand how dangerous the internet is becoming for kids.
Do you know that any child with the right motivation can become a good learner? We often make the mistake of limiting learning to classroom, but the truth is classroom is meant to be a primary source of instruction while intellectual, social and academic growth should extend outside the walls of the classroom if we truly want to enhance a child’s desire and ability to learn. (more…)
School is out and the kids have their whole time to themselves. This of course means that they will be spending more unsupervised time alone at home, and in some cases with the house help while parents are away. It is important for parents to reiterate these basic safety rules to their kids in an age-appropriate language in order to be safe throughout the holiday season.
“Words can inspire. And words can destroy. Choose yours well” –
Words can be extremely damaging, and what may seem like an offhanded remark to our children in an annoyed moment can cause serious emotional repercussions for children down the line. Children can often push even “a Saint” to their breaking point. I’ve been absolutely floored by what I’ve heard parents say and do that severely affect their children. It is not an easy task, but we need to make more conscious effort to MIND OUR LANGUAGE with our children.
Below are the 10 things I believe parents should NEVER say or do to their children, if they want to ensure their children grow up as healthy, happy, balanced, self-reliant, self-confident, and self-loving as possible:
Sometimes last year during Independence Day church program, a child asked her mother, mummy tell me more about Nigeria and the mother answered after few seconds of being dumbfounded, what would you like to know? How hilarious lol. Obviously, nothing came to her mind but just to at least answer the child, she responded with another question before she finally said I will tell you when we get home. Even me, I can’t deny the fact that I would always struggle to come up with cool, amazing and fun facts about Nigeria and this applies to many parents as well. Just before your kids have any reason to ask this on Independence Day, I have compiled some few facts about Nigeria to reel out to them. (more…)
October 1st can most times be a sobering day, because you are tempted to think that Nigeria as nation has not achieved much. It seems we take two steps forward and five backwards. But I like to always be optimistic and look at the glass as half full rather than half empty. While there are things I am ashamed of, there are a lot of things to appreciate about being Nigerian and living here. Today I ask myself, how do I begin to instil that same level of patriotism in my children who will be the leaders and change agents of tomorrow? (more…)
The world is changing rapidly with technology and the fact that the world is a global village, skills learnt today can easily become obsolete tomorrow. With technology doing some of the day to day operation in various industry, the skill set required for the new global citizen is different. (more…)
I was reading through a post recently about homework for kids. I came across a comment by a woman that says “My first-grade son was required to research a significant person from history and write a paper of at least two pages about the person, with a bibliography. How can he be expected to do that by himself? He just started to learn to read and write a couple of months ago. Schools are pushing too hard and expecting too much from kids.” (more…)