If you still have a mother, it will do you a lot of good to cherish her and be present in her life. As Mother’s Day approaches, I am so thankful for my late mother. At the later part of her life as she became old and frail, a role reversal became necessary as i took on the role of Mother to care for her even though she was a small and mighty “dragon lady” back in her hay days.Read mhttps://9ijakids.com/a-tribute-to-my-mother-darling-mrs-a/ore
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He had been raised in a Christian home and had come to faith in Jesus Christ at an early age. He was baptised at a church camp and had even survived being a preacher’s kid. But early in his high school years, my wife and I could sense him slipping away – from us and from God.Read mohttps://9ijakids.com/20-ways-to-pray-for-your-teen/re
Global Money Week is 25 – 31st March this year. It’s a week observed in over 150 countries to teach and promote financial literacy among children and young people. I’m sure now that you are older and wiser, you wished someone had taught you a bit more about money to prevent those financial blunders you made in your 20s/30s and might still be making.Readhttps://9ijakids.com/?p=13557 more
“An early understanding of financial concepts accounts for the wealth gap between the affluent and those with low incomes”.
Now that I am older and wiser, I wish my parents had taught me certain things about money. It would have made a whole lot of difference and made the roads to “riches” a less bumpy ride.Reahttps://9ijakids.com/6-things-i-wish-i-knew-about-money-when-i-was-younger/d more
My 8-year-old can be really “forgetful”. I seem to have to always remind him to flush after using the toilet. If you send him on an errand from the sitting room to the bedroom, he will most likely come back empty handed. I have lost count of all the things he “forgets”. I guess what is most worrying is “forgetting” what he has learnt in school.https://9ijakids.com/?p=13514Read more
There’s practically nothing we celebrate today that our kids don’t get to hear about through the internet or television. I have had my little ones asked countless time today ‘’what is it about women’s day’’?. Yes, today’s kids are very much current, all thanks to technology. So, how would you put your child especially your female child through today’s celebration of international women’s day? What are the most important things your daughter needs to know about being a girl?Read mhttps://9ijakids.com/7-things-to-teach-your-daughter-on-international-womens-day/ore
Imagine what life will be 15 years from now with all the innovations and advancements as well as uncertainties. One thing is crystal clear: A career in science, technology, engineering and maths (STEM) offers so much for our children; opportunity, the chance to shape our world and job stability in an increasingly tech-focused marketplace.https://9ijakids.com/12-interesting-stem-facts-every-parent-must-know/Read more
So really this topic reminds me of how I was booed severally back then in secondary school during every inter class football competition. I was the typical example of “short one’’. (short one is a term used for someone who is unfit in the team).
Yes, each time our team plays, I ended up being the topic of discussion because it was either I caused the error that led to our defeat or I missed a goal that could have earned us the victory. There were times that my mates told me football wasn’t my thing, so I should just save myself the incessant embarrassments by forcing myself on the team. Who would have thought that a onetime misfit could ever win the prize of the highest goal scorer in the subsequent inter class football competition?
The little difference between people who give up easily and those that stretch further is their mindset. Growth mindset is about how we face and overcome challenges in our everyday life. In most cases, people with this kind of mindset had it infused in them from the very early stage of their lives and as such, they believe their abilities can improve with time. Most people have the other (fixed) mindset – I will never be good at maths. I am short so basketball is only for tall people. Not everyone was born to draw.
Fixed mindset believes that talent is inherited and you either have it or NOT. There is nothing you can do to change it. Which mindset do you want for your child? Growth mindset? Yes? Great!!!!
A child who struggles with mathematics and has scored low severally in same would probably assume he/she is bad at mathematics and rather than trying to improve on that, he would put his strength into other areas is a child with a fixed mindset. The one that has trouble playing with figures but continues to improve demonstrates a growth mindset.
Growth mindset is a social learning process that parents can help their kids to develop overtime. With these five tips, you might as well be on your way to raising a child with a growth mindset.
- Praise properly
Remember that a child is 5 times more likely to repeat an action that received positive feedback from his parent. However, avoid praising your child for their intelligence or natural ability. Doing this makes them think they are born with it and can as well discourage them from additional effort.
- Embrace their mistakes:
Help your kids see mistakes as new discovery rather than failures. Encourage them to learn from the mistakes by being curious. For instance, ask questions like why didn’t it work this time? What can you do to avoid this next time? Employ languages that make challenges and setbacks look normal rather than big deals.
- Set high standard;
Many people believe that lowering expectation boost self-esteem, in some cases this is not always so. Setting the bar high sometimes shows that you believe and have faith in their ability and this in turn makes them believe in themselves. Encourage them to leave their comfort zones and embrace challenges.
- Avoid spoon-feeding;
Helping your kids out all the time with their problems can only create in them a dependent mentality. Rather than making the answers available, ask them open ended questions regarding the problem, for instance what you think will happen if or why do you suppose. These questions help them in their thinking skills and in most cases leads to rich discovery.
Encourage them to be resilient and never give up even when it is frustrating.
In their early lives, kids need to come to term with the fact that good achievements are products of hard work, efforts and perseverance. Encourage them to not give up when things get hard and tell them that if they can’t do something now, it doesn’t mean they never will. Getting better takes time but improving is guaranteed. Share stories of other people’s successes. And teach them that it is better not to accept NO and IMPOSSIBLE.
People that have gone on to do great things all had a growth mindset. It is mission critical to nurture this mindset in your child. I wish I had had this mindset much earlier.
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2019 is my year of raising the bar in my intentional parenting and STEM is one focus area. Why you may ask?
I worry if my son is achieving the right balance between getting excellent grades, really understanding the topic and the love of learning. Grades and test results are the huge focus in education today, which hinder kids from getting enough of the inspiring hands-on learning that leads to lasting interest.
I hope you can join on our journey to demystifying STEM and have fun doing it.
One of the first thing I decided in our STEM challenge is to visit more museums when we go on vacation. Museums you say? I used to have the same feeling till I visited the Children’s Museum in Houston. My husband and I were like two kids given a blank cheque in a candy store. The pulley I struggled to learn in secondary school finally made sense when I saw it in action.
Museums offer opportunities to learn about the history of technology, how things were made. So on your next vacation to London, make sure you visit some museums – Science Museum, British Museum, Natural History Museum to name a few others.
Taking a cue from what my kids are covering this term (Materials, Forces in Action, Electricity, etc), here are the first five STEM experiments we will be kicking off
- Sink or Float with Oranges
- Rain in a Jar
- Making a Bottle Rocket
- Making Rainbow Rubber Egg
- Building your Paper Plane